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Ma’am
Ma’am was a grand lady.
She was significant.
She was grand because …
- She made others feel important.
- She made others feel they CAN DO!
- She made others feel they were LOVED.
It seems success in life comes from how you
make people feel after their interaction with
you.
People remember how you make them feel
about themselves.
She made others feel encouraged, loved,
inspired, and welcome.
And she did it with such grace, elegance,
poise.
You see … I and others called Ma’am when …
- you needed advice, she was tactical
and strategic.
- you called her when you needed
inspiration, she was so motivational.
- you called her when you needed
encouragement, she was always so
positive.
And you always left feeling …
- more positive,
- more inspired,
- more encouraged, and
- more ABLE to DO!
Now Ma’am would also tell you when what
you did was NOT right … but always from a
place of love.
You know, Ma’am loved our dogs.
My husband and I have had four dogs over
our twenty-seven years together.
The first one was named Hudson.
We were really young at the time and had
no idea of how to raise a strong-willed
husky and Hudson was the worst behaved
animal around, but not because of Hudson,
because of me and my husband – horribly
inexperienced dog owners.
But Ma’am would watch him when we had
to go out-of-town, and he would jump on her
bed and pull the rollers out of her hair while
she slept.
Yes, I am very ashamed.
She would say, this is the worst behaved dog
on the planet. Hudson lived until he was 14.
By the time we got Rocky, a yellow lab, Ma’am
lived with us.
We were much more experienced dog owners
… crate for house training, obedience school at
6 months, daily exercise, invisible fence, we had
it down.
She loved Rocky, and he was really sweet and
helped her when she was initially diagnosed
with cancer.
She truly loved Rocky.
Then my son told me that he thought Rocky was
lonely, so we got Ebony. She is a 5-pound
shih zhu-poodle mix. Ebony is a lap dog and very
cute. She is irresistible to ALL five-year-old girls
and most everybody.
Ma’am would say, you know …
Ebony is really smart, and she is cute and all,
but SHE IS ALL for herself. She don’t care if you
are pleased with her or not, she is NOT like Rocky.
Unfortunately, Rocky died, he did live until he
was 13.
Ebony was actually really devastated by Rocky’s
death and so was Ma’am, as we all were.
We soon got Argos, a velvety chocolate lab.
I think we assumed since he was a lab, he would
have the same temperament as Rocky … umm NO.
Ma’am would say, Sista, I don’t care what you say,
this dog is a BEAST!!!!
He has nowhere the sophistication of Rocky, and
I am REALLY trying to LOVE him, but I just don’t
know.
Now, while I agree with Ma’am that Argos has a
more primitive composure, he does just love you,
and he wants to please you.
And that’s what Ma’am saw over his lack of
sophistication and she grew to love Argos.
And at Christmas, when we had then moved to
another state with the dogs …
- Ebony got a bag of presents to be placed
under the tree.
- Argos got a bag of presents to be placed
under the tree.
- And a third bag was delivered of presents
to go in each dog’s individual stockings.
She would ponder for hours about the plan for
each individual present for each dog.
Every morning, I told her how the dogs were
doing in our new state.
She had this special concern for Argos …
- Ebony was small and cute, and so
everyone automatically loved her.
- Rocky was handsome and sophisticated,
and so everyone loved him.
- But, she felt Argos was NOT good looking.
She did feel, in her words, that he had a good
figure and the shiniest velvety looking coat.
I tried to convince her that all labs look alike,
they are just different colors. She was never
really convinced.
One morning, she said she looked at pictures
of both Rocky and Argos for a very long time,
and she was really trying to see what I was
talking about, but she really couldn’t, Argos
was not good looking.
One day I had to tell her that the vet in our
new state said that …
Argos was 5-7 lbs overweight, and I mentioned
that since we came out to the new state, his coat
was no longer shiny.
Oh, why did I say that?
Sista, OMG, his figure and his coat is ALL he has.
I told you HE IS NOT GOOD LOOKING! How
could you have let this happen? This is ridiculous!
So since I knew Ma’am was moving out to our
new state to live with me and my husband, I spent
the last few months getting Argos back in shape
with no help from my son or my husband. My son
said I am raising Argos according to the vet’s values
and I need to raise him according to our family
values and allow him to be fat and happy.
I ignored my son, and Argos is back in shape, and
the vet gave me these supplements and his coat
looks better and shinier than it has ever been!
I knew the moment Argos came running down
the path to greet Ma’am as she moved in, I did
not want to hear her mouth about how terrible
I was to allow this to happen. She needed to
see a trim Argos with a shiny coat.
Argos is trim and shiny now.
ANYWAY … I am going to miss Ma’am terribly,
but I plan to celebrate her life by taking her example;
- I want to leave others better based on their
interaction with me … AS SHE DID!
- I want to bless others with grace, knowledge,
empathy, and encouragement … AS SHE DID!
- I want to let grace and ease come my way
… AS SHE DID!
I hope to honor that grand lady!!!!!!
I love you, Ma’am.
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